I have been a cycling coach for about 4 years (currently USAC Level 2). And over the course of those 4 years I’ve had several athletes that I’ve coached that did not have the most supportive spouses. It’s ranged from a wife that did not understand why her husband needed to go out on 2-3 hour rides if he was only racing in crits lasting less than an hour (she was a runner). To the extreme end where one of my clients basically had an argument with his wife before every single ride. I certainly do not want to cause anyone to get a divorce, so I am soliciting advice from the TR user group about what tactics and strategies you all have used to keep your spouses happy. I’ve suggested to my clients that they get up EARLY and ride. It’s like that old adage says, “nobody misses you before 7 AM”. If you get up and get the workout over with early, it’s less likely to have an impact on your marriage or your family. I frequently get up and go for rides in the dark on the weekends and ride the trainer in the living room between 5-6 AM. Get out early, and get back before anyone even knows you’re gone.
I’ve certainly had my fair share of disagreements with my wife over our 14 years of marriage. Disagreements ranging from how much I spend on bike related items, to the amount of time I dedicate to training and racing. My wife is super supportive overall though and it’s rare that she doesn’t come to a race to cheer me on. We’ve gotten the kids involved and they participate in the free kids races at cyclocross races and enjoy going mountain biking with me on easy trails (they are 8 and 5). But I know that my family is probably the exception to the rule, so I do not have a ton of experience to share with my clients that struggle to find balance between their family life and cycling. Family is the priority, but I also think health and well being are extremely important too. Any advice to give my clients would be greatly appreciated.